{"id":19002,"date":"2023-08-03T13:10:53","date_gmt":"2023-08-03T11:10:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.teamecho.com\/resources\/blog\/mastering-feedback-rules-10-tips-for-effective-feedback\/"},"modified":"2024-02-26T14:25:31","modified_gmt":"2024-02-26T13:25:31","slug":"feedback-rules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.teamecho.com\/en\/resources\/blog\/feedback-rules\/","title":{"rendered":"Mastering feedback rules: 10 tips for effective feedback"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Feedback rules:<\/span> Do I really need them?\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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The right communication<\/strong> is crucial – at work and in private life. Feedback rules play an important role here. <\/p>\n

Why is that? <\/p>\n

Quite simply, they not only promote an open and honest discussion climate<\/strong>. They also ensure that you and your counterpart can understand each other better and develop further<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

A win-win, right?<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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The 10 commandments<\/span> of feedback<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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You’re not sure whether the feedback you’re giving is really being received by the other person?<\/p>\n

Don’t panic. Our 10 feedback rules<\/strong> will help you to add depth, clarity and respect to your conversations.<\/p>\n

Let’s go.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #1:<\/span> Be specific and constructive<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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When you give feedback, it is important that you are precise and targeted<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Avoid general statements such as: “Your work is not good enough.” Instead, try to describe exactly what could be improved and how<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

That makes your feedback valuable and helpful.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of “Your report is bad”, you could say:<\/p>\n

“Your report would be even more meaningful if you included more data and elaborated your conclusions in more detail.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #2:<\/span> Give feedback in real time<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Always give feedback as soon as possible while the event you are referring to is still fresh in your mind<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

This allows the person to remember better and implement the feedback more effectively.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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If an employee dominates the conversation in a meeting, it would be better to address them directly afterwards. And not wait until the next appraisal interview.<\/p>\n

You could say: “I noticed that you talked a lot in today’s session. It would be great if you could give others more space to share their ideas in the future.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #3:<\/span> Emphasize the action, not the person<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Focus on the behavior<\/strong> that needs improvement, not the person themselves.<\/p>\n

This will prevent the person from feeling attacked or devalued.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of saying “You’re unpunctual”, you could use constructive language:<\/p>\n

“I’ve noticed that you’ve been late a lot in the last few days. This can disrupt the workflow. Let’s find a solution together to avoid this in the future.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #4:<\/span> Use \"I\" messages<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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If you use “I” statements instead of “you” statements,<\/strong> you can prevent the other person from feeling attacked.<\/p>\n

In this way, feedback is perceived as a personal perception rather than a universal truth.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of saying “You never listen”, you could say:<\/p>\n

“I sometimes don’t feel heard when I get the feeling that you’re distracted during our conversations. Could we find a way to improve that?”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #5:<\/span> Feedback should be balanced<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Nobody is perfect, and nobody does everything wrong.<\/p>\n

By emphasizing both the positive aspects and the potential for improvement<\/strong>, you ensure that your feedback is fair and motivating.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of just saying “You make too many mistakes in your reports”, you could phrase it like this:<\/p>\n

“I appreciate the depth of your analysis in your reports. However, it would be helpful if you could pay more attention to accuracy to avoid mistakes.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #6:<\/span> Be open to questions and discussion<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Feedback is a dialog, not a one-way street<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Be prepared to answer questions to clarify misunderstandings and invite discussion.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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After you have given your feedback, you could add:<\/p>\n

“These are my thoughts and perceptions, and I’m open to discussing them or answering any other questions you may have.<\/p>\n

I want to make sure that we both feel comfortable with the situation and that we can find ways to improve together.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #7:<\/span> Emphasize the impact of the behavior<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of just saying what is wrong, explain how this behavior affects others<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

This helps the person to better understand the consequences of their actions and motivates them to change.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of saying “You’re always late”, you could explain:<\/p>\n

“If you’re late, it will shift our schedule. This can lead to others having to delay their tasks.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #8:<\/span> Choose the right time and place<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Feedback should always be given at the right time and in the right place<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Avoid expressing criticism in a group situation and make sure the person is open to the conversation<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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If you notice that a team member has made a mistake in a meeting, it would not be appropriate to address this immediately in the group. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is better to take the person aside afterwards and tell them in a private conversation: <\/span><\/p>\n

“I noticed that a mistake was made in today’s meeting. Let’s talk about it and see how we can avoid this in the future.”<\/span><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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“The most effective feedback<\/span> is the one you ask for directly<\/span>“.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Benjamin Blum (Leiter Human Resources & Mitglied der Gesch\u00e4ftsleitung) von Arlewo<\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Feedback rule #9:<\/span> Avoid generalization<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Avoid statements like “You always do that” or “You never …”. <\/p>\n

This will ensure that your feedback remains specific and focused on the specific behavior<\/strong> rather than criticizing the person as a whole.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span><\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of saying “You’re always late”, you could say:<\/p>\n

“I’ve noticed that you’ve been late for work several times in the last week. Let’s talk about it and see how we can improve it in the future.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Feedback rule #10:<\/span> Offer solutions, not just criticism<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Good feedback always includes suggestions for improvement<\/strong> and not just highlighting mistakes.<\/p>\n

This gives the other person the chance to change their behavior and grow.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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For example<\/span><\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Instead of simply saying “Your presentations are too long and boring”, you could suggest:<\/p>\n

“I think your presentations could be even more powerful if you keep them shorter and include more visual elements to keep the audience interested.”<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Bonus round:<\/span> Accepting feedback correctly<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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If you apply our 10 feedback rules, you will become a master at giving feedback. But receiving feedback is also an art in itself. In conclusion, here are four points that will help you:<\/p>\n

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  • Keep an open mind:<\/strong> It’s natural to feel defensive when you receive critical feedback. But try to keep an open mind and see the feedback as an opportunity to improve.<\/li>\n
  • Listen actively:<\/strong> Show that you are really listening by maintaining eye contact and asking questions if necessary. This way you can make sure that you have fully understood the feedback.<\/li>\n
  • Say thank you: Feedback sometimes hurts.<\/strong> Say thank you anyway. This shows that you appreciate that someone has taken the time to help you improve.<\/li>\n
  • Act:<\/strong> Demonstrate that you are taking the feedback seriously by taking action to improve the behavior or situation being addressed. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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